Supporting Scat
Struggling to accept your scat fetish?
You’re not alone. Many in our community have gone through some difficulty in accepting this part of themselves, me included. I struggled for years before eventually realizing I had nothing to be ashamed of. There’s nothing wrong with getting aroused from the unusual, the taboo, or depraved, particularly when a poop fetish doesn’t require a victim or unethical practices, and fantasies and informed consensual partnerships are a safe zone. Shame itself is often the worst (and only) way we are harmed by having this fetish. Having a scat fetish doesn’t make you a mistake.
Here's How Some Of Our Members Overcame Their Shame
“Shame and guilt are what society throws at you... I was trained as a teen and have always been eager to eat and swallow, I was always praised, and I do enjoy it. I have no guilt and no shame...Being openly gay or lesbian was once “wrong”, it’s not today. Remember, society once burnt witches. I may not conform to societys norms, many of us don’t, but I’m proud to be different...It helps people to know they are not abnormal, and never alone. XXX” -sissypig
“Scat porn was actually what helped me accept my love for shit...it took a good 4-5 years or so of basically just being in denial and having that shameful feeling that we all know too well. Once I came across scat porn I realized that I’m far from alone, and that people even make a living off this! I realized pretty quickly that it was just a fetish like all the rest. Albeit one of the more extreme ones.. lol. But that’s what makes it so great! And for me personally, I kind of like having a dirty secret that no one knows about! I do have a theory that given enough time, scat will be much more mainstream. 10-15 years ago watersports really weren’t widely accepted as it is now.” -ScatAddict
“There's literally nothing evil or wrong about scat. With time I've been more and more accepting of it because I've come to the realization that I'm doing nothing wrong. All of the stereotypes of "if you like scat you must be mentally ill," or, "if you like scat you must be a disgusting person," or, "it'll make you very sick and kill you" are just from ignorance. Even on this r/coprophiles reddit sub there's plenty of people, including myself, who have germophobe tendencies. I am not mentally ill and have a pretty healthy social life. I also take care of my health and don't do drugs. So now you have at least one example that shatters some of these preconceptions that people might have." -Anonymous
“Really, at the end of the day it's just a very unusual fetish that luckily isn't morally wrong, too dangerous, etc. Basically, just get educated and look at this with an objective mind. I feel like if other people did that, even if they're not into it, they would be more open minded about it. All of the bad rep this fetish gets is rooted in ignorance.” -ItIsReallyNotThatBad
“I have had an interest in scat since I was little. I felt like something was terribly wrong with me. Even to this day, I am becoming more and more loving and accepting of who I was designed to be. It still takes time unshaming my thoughts cast on by misinformed individuals. Female partners who I confided in who turned their backs, which now I am glad for. The fact that I am able to fully understand and fully accept myself is honestly a gift I will forever be grateful for. I view my fetish as a very deep and intimate relationship between individuals at their most vulnerable layer. A lot of progress has been made in lifting the many negative stigmas associated with the Scat Fetish and its community. I am proud to say that I have a love for scat and the heart love's what the heart love's.” -InterestedAtoms
“I've never told anyone about the full extent of my fetish IRL, and I don't think I ever will. But since joining forums like this and just interacting with poo lovers online, and I've been able to feel less like a freak and more like a natural variation. When I start to feel guilty for loving poo, I have to remember that of all the taboo fetishes, mine isn't that bad because mine doesn't hurt anyone and doesn't require violating anyone's consent.” -Anonymous
“I think what helped me accept my fetish the most was when I started to understand that a lot of people with extreme fetishes didn't even choose them in the first place. Often times, fetishes manifest from something that may have started from a young age and then progress as you become an adult. Sometimes young people associate arousal with things that are non sexual or even gross and don't realize it's becoming a fetish. Talking with dommes that specialize in scat has helped me feel way more comfortable with my fetish as well.” -Anon432156
"I have had this fetish since my early teenage years (although bodily functions have fascinated me for as long as I can remember). I've experienced a fair amount of shame and guilt over it. I went through a period of questioning why I get turned on by something that society deems "dirty" and "wrong". Eventually I realized that there's nothing wrong with being turned on by this. There is only one person in real life who knows about my fetish, and they have been so supportive and non-judgmental. They don't see me any differently because of it - they just accept that it's something I'm into. That conversation actually brought us closer together, and I am so grateful for their acceptance because it's such a confidence boost for me! Remember: Don't be ashamed of what your body does naturally, and don't be ashamed if you are turned on by it, because that's natural too." -lemonademartini
"As a man in his early 30s, I am now accepting my scat fetish, and actually glad to have it, as it made me encounter great people, as well as helped me discover the more inner, private, repressed part of me. But it was a long and difficult journey...I could feel the shame, the self doubt about my own sanity. Am I really not normal? Am I disgusting? Should I be treated? I can remember those moments, alone at night, crying, asking myself why me, why do I have to have this fetish? ...Even though it was a relief to talk to people facing the same struggles, I still felt this shame because I had to hide this secret life to people around me, not telling my friend that I was actually seeing someone, etc. But everything changed when I met my now girlfriend. Early in our relationship I told her about my fetish. I tried to find the proper words, without shame, and her reaction of total acceptance made me realized that nothing is wrong about enjoy peculiar pleasures with likeminded, consensual people. We’ve been told our whole life that poop is bad, dangerous, disgusting, all that based on some cultural constructions, just like other fetishes few decades ago, such as BDSM. Being able to find pleasure with such natural body function is actually a benediction, as it allows us to deconstruct moral beliefs and, I hope, make us more accepting and understanding people." -JoshStew7
There’s nothing “wrong” with us just because this filthy fun turns us on, and no one can help WHAT turns them on. Unless your fetish requires self-harm, a victim, or is unethical in practice, then you will cause more harm to yourself forbidding indulgence than not. There are also ways to enjoy your scat kink that are 100% safe (such as enjoying porn or the way it feels when you poop) and while it may surprise some in the broader fetish community, many of the larger risks of shit play are easily minimized with educated precautions and health screenings. Open-mindedness, compassion, and humility go a long way in combating against needless self-loathing, self-doubt, and shame.
Here are some online scat communities where you can connect with new friends and receive some emotional support and understanding as well!
“The Scat Playroom" on Fetlife.com
XOXOXO